Rejection in Relational Sales

Last November me and my friend were hanging out with two girls on a double date- a hangout kind of situation. Here’s the issue though while my friend was interested in the girl that he was with, I was not. Later that night, she was talking to me when I realized something, she was trying to sell herself to me. After realizing that she was putting a decent amount of effort, I knew I had to tell her no. Here is something crucial, when you reject anyone in any kind of sales situation, whether it be in business or a relationship kind of thing, you must not be too strong or aggressive on your “no.” If I said no too quickly or too aggressively, then I could’ve looked like a ‘bad guy’ not just to her but also to her friends. And since my friend was talking to her friend, I couldn’t do that. In business the same thing exists where you must remember that people are more interconnected than you might think. Therefore, what I did was that over around 5-10 minutes I ‘softly’ told her that I was not interested, and the result was that we both left the situation, not too hurt and not too awkward, and although she definitely did not like me that night, I wasn’t a bad guy. Something that I think this helps to teach is that we must remember that things that are applicable to the business world, are also related to the relational world in general.