Self-talk. We all do it. Some of us louder than others.<\/p>\n
I feel liked we have all had those experiences before a big game or presentation where we give the pep talk. “You’re awesome. You got this.” Maybe do a little boxing in the mirror.<\/p>\n
But when you are really discouraged, that doesn’t work. When you miss that game-winning block or get some really negative feedback, it can be difficult to believe that “you got this” when the evidence of your ability is overshadowed by a bad experience or a big obstacle. You can say it all you want, but it just doesn’t sound true in the moment. What then?<\/p>\n
That is the flaw of the statement. It is like a blank board in your mind that you can’t do anything with. It might support a few things, but in the end it is just a board. But questions- they have hooks. They transform that blank sheet of wood into one covered in hooks of possible answers for you to develop. When you ask “Can I do this?” instead of stating “I can do this” you are forced to answer the next question: “What evidence is there that I either can or cannot do this?” [Well, I had that one bad experience where I missed that block, so maybe I can’t. But I made hundreds of other blocks in practice. I was better positioned than any of my teammates. And I plan to brush up before the next big game.] Now, you have a whole coat rack of reasons that you are able to achieve your goal. And as terrible a metaphor that is- you can understand that questions open doors to possible answers that statements never can . Use Interrogative self-talk before the sale, or whatever you next big game happens to be to help get you become a little more buoyant.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Self-talk. We all do it. Some of us louder than others. I feel liked we have all had those experiences before a big game or presentation where we give the pep talk. “You’re awesome. You got this.” Maybe do a little boxing in the mirror. But when you are really discouraged, that doesn’t work. When […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1432","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1432","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1432"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1432\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1433,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1432\/revisions\/1433"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1432"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1432"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gccwebsites.com\/startupsales\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1432"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}